Dating Tips for Creating Relationships

Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And it's quite sad.

So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.

But I had my brain up my butt.

...maybe that's a little rude.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I just accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But...

Do you believe girls have cooler interests?

Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?

It's all have connection.

What it really need is self-acceptance.

If you don't accept yourself, women won't accept you also.

Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don't like yourself?

She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.

Because you can't really like a woman,  if you don't like yourself.  And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?

It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

Based on my experience, almost all DON'T ACCEPT themselves completely.

And I'm no exception.

The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.

It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.

The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.

Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn't end after your opener, after a few dates, after "making love." It never ends that way.

Because it is you.

You are not separated from your game.

Your game IS YOU. The "game" is the degree to which you can express who you really are.

"But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward" you might be thinking. I disagree. That's not you.

That is the vague you.

That's you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.

Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.

I am not aware of shaping.

Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape.

In fact, what applied to others is self-acceptance. You know what you like, and you encourage girls to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it's not the woman's fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you come to a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you talked and treat a woman like she's lucky you approached her, she'll feel that way.

Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

We go into this heavily in our workshops. I've developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend.  It all depends on what you want.

I think of all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.