How to Let a Woman Know that You are for Real

Does your a woman know that the vibe you're showing to her is the real you?

 

Or does your woman know that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?

 

Credibility is the answer to these.

 

There are lots of guys think that they don't have enough value, 90% of it, it's credibility they lack. In fact, most of the tactics used to create value these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe. (and anyone who's anyone KNOWS I don't even teach value. Not for a damn second!)

 

"Player vibe" is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

 

Able to create credibility is one of the key components to sleeping with a girl quickly.

 

Another component is sexual tension.

 

And as a pick-up student, you know that there are women that needs sexual tension to sleep with a guy and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

 

There are three levels of credibility.

 

1. Safety

2. Commonality

3. Direction

 

Safety: The basic and fundamental level of credibility in which you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be spending a night and sleep with you.

 

Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or having a continued affair with you.

 

Direction: You need to show direction in order that a woman will change her existing life plans or to leave her current boyfriend and be with you.

 

A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->

 

We have to realize that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have have your own social programming. We all do.

 

These differences is not necessarily a bad thing. On the other hand, it's very useful in our dealing with women.

 

Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect her to realize that.

 

Men have instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have evolved an instinct to choose guys who gives a high chance of sticking around to raise children.

 

And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.

 

Woman's programming is her reality and literally her world.

 

And the credibility is about showing you understand her world.

 

HERE'S AN EXAMPLE ->

 

You are comfortably warm sitting in a chair inside your bedroom.

 

And then a friend of you came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked to sit on where you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner of your room.

 

You would probably feel mad with him. You might even think he's insane.

 

He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. He's "in his own world".

 

Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand and  respect your world - you probably wouldn't connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

 

And this is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.

 

If a woman thinks that it's a wrong thing for a guy to kiss and tell (and most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO a believe that it's not good for a guy to kiss and tell.

 

And you can get really good at this.

 

The fact that you have the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility vastly.

 

Try the three levels of credibility in this way:

 

Safety - It's safe to have you in her world.

Commonality - See the same things in your woman's world. Having same perceptions, values, and goals.

Direction - You have the ability to modify and change her world.

 

These are best demonstrated in order.

 

At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.

 

It's because guys naturally understands a certain type of woman's worldview.

 

But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's worldview.

 

The best way of doing this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

 

At first remember the things she said in the past, and then recall it after she has forgotten what she said.

 

Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter your woman's world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

 

That's when you know you get this thing.

 

When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

 

She will thinks "He's just like me!"

 

This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up.

 

Once you get to this you'll see your plan improving dramatically.