(continued from part 1)
There was about a couple of times that I did the
peacocking. I did that to see if it worked because I heard
that other guys were doing it.
I felt ridiculous when I went out and was totally
incongruent with my personality.
But we all know that women pay attention to fashion, and
like a well-dressed man.
I noticed that it was in my workout clothes or something
really basic - like jeans and a tanktop that some of my best
pickups occurred.
At the same time, I'd see muscled-up guys wearing revealing
spandex, or super-tight shirts at the club, and women
definitely did not respond well to this.
It got me thinking... that maybe it's not how flashy or
costly are the cloths should be.
I guess there is something else going on.
Actually, there are two things going on, and you must
manage, or balance these two things.
First and foremost, never seek approval from women. If a
woman can tell that you are trying to impress her or make
her like you, you are toast.
So if you look like you got dressed with the intention of
getting women's attention, they'll see you coming a mile a
way and put up their defenses.
You shouldn't have to look like a pick up artist.
It's better to dress reasonably, and not put too much
thought into it.
However, you don't want to look sloppy. You want to present
yourself in the best way you can.
This gets back to self-expression.
You already have a sense what kind of man you are, what
your "scene" is, what you think is cool.
Do not change that.
Instead, develop it, with these simple tweaks.
Wear colors that suites to your skin tone and hair color.
This isn't rocket science. You can look online or go to n
upscale men's clothing store, and ask someone about this.
Next, make sure your clothes are clean, and wrinkle free,
and reasonably up-to-date. A woman should not have to worry
about bringing you around her friends.
Lastly, make sure your clothes fit well, meaning, they
ACCENTUATE YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.
Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your
shoulders.
Have your legs look long and thin by wearing pants.
Wear shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.
Groom yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a decent
haircut. Shave, or don't, but figure out what looks best and
take it all the way.
One other thing...
Accessories should hang off you loosely, and have the look
of a small decoration that says, "yeah, I can fuck."
I don't want to talk too much because that's a whole other
topic because that's a whole other topic. Just use your
intuition with this one.
I am NOT the most fashion savvy guy in the world.
Usually the one who pick out clothes for me is my
girlfriend - not for MY benefits...
... but so that she doesn't feel embarrassed when we go out
in public together!
If it were up to me, I'd wear sweats and a t-shirt all day,
with some old worn out sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is
pretty silly.
I can absolutely appreciate the aspect of design and style
of fashion. When I looked at the able-bodied dressed woman,
her outfits is like of art, and I dig that.
But when a man is "too stylish" I kinda lose respect for
him.
Don't misinterpret me, a man should present himself like he
means to be taken seriously. A nice suit, good quality,
well-fitting clothes are a basic of being a masculine.
But some guys take it too far.
Case in point, the obsession with "peacocking" in the
pickup Community for the past several years.
When I hear this term it makes me cringe.
YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.
If you don't know what "peacocking" is, let me explain it
to you.
A while ago, there was an emergence of routine-based
"game," relying heavily on superficial techniques, status
games, and over-analysis of social interactions.
This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw
the value of it.
Major reason is I saw how pretending to be someone other
than yourself, and it JUST FELT WRONG saying the routines
and joke that the other guys came up with.
On top of that, the FIRST FOCUS of all that strategy and
game-playing was to eventually get approval from women,
while making them feel insecure so they'd think you were
cooler than them.
Think about the layers in the dating approach. Not only are
you faking your personality because you
a) seek approval (as if women has an authority on what
makes man a man)
b) keep the fact that you're seeking approval
c) play games with women so that they feel insecure and try
to seek your approval
YUCK
One of the main techniques of this approach was to
"peacock," to dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so
that women would "notice" you and want to talk to you.
Wearing a nice watch, or a necklace isn't a bad thing
because some have personal meaning.
I don't want women to like me because of that.
I'm sure a lot of you guys have seen the advocates of this
approach on TV shows, straining to make sense out of this
hare-brained "technique."
It's sad to say that some students of other pickup schools
that I've encountered, were not only nervous, misdirected,
clumsy, they looked RETARDED.
So I'd like to set a record when it comes to fashion and
meeting girls.
There are few pieces of things you need to pay attention to
when it comes to your physical looks.
After you get this stuff handled, you should put it out of
your mind, and not wait for women to notice you before you
TAKE ACTION.
Before I go on, I have to reveal a secret.
(Continued in Part 2)
